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Comparison steals your joy

 As we approach the holidays, I’ve been doing some reflecting myself. I want to share something personal with you today because I believe many of you may have gone through something similar.

When I started my career as a coach, I found myself constantly comparing my progress to other coaches in the industry. It was easy to scroll through social media and see other coaches hosting grand events, working with high-profile clients, and sharing their latest successes. And each time, I felt this knot in my stomach. Why wasn’t I invited to speak at this event? Why don’t I have the same following? How did they get to where they are?

Sound familiar?

At first, I brushed it off, thinking it was normal to feel a little envious. But over time, I realized something deeper was happening: this comparison was affecting me in a way that was not healthy. It made me question my worth, my abilities, and my impact. It stole my focus from what really mattered — my own growth, my clients’ transformations, and the unique value I bring to the table.

One day, I decided enough was enough. I started removing people from my timeline who made me feel less than. I stopped following accounts that triggered feelings of inadequacy. I began curating my environment — choosing to consume content that uplifted, inspired, and motivated me, not content that made me feel small.

And you know what? That simple change transformed my mindset. The more I focused on my own journey and stopped measuring myself against others, the more joy, clarity, and success came into my life.

Comparison steals your joy.

It doesn’t matter where you are in your career or your personal life — if you spend all your time comparing yourself to someone else’s highlight reel, you’ll never feel like you’re enough. But when you focus on YOUR journey, celebrate YOUR progress, and create YOUR path, the possibilities become endless.

So, as we near the end of the year, I urge you to stop looking at where others are and start focusing on where YOU are going.

  • Are you proud of how far you’ve come in your career?
  • Are you satisfied with the direction you’re headed, or is it time for a change?
  • What small steps can you take today to move closer to the life you’ve always dreamed of?

Now, it’s time to invest in yourself and your growth in 2025.

Let’s make next year YOUR year.

I’m excited to announce the first workshop of the new year: Goal Setting & Clarity, happening on January 9th, 2025, the investment is R150, (Let me know if you want to be included). This is your opportunity to get clear on where you want to go and create an actionable plan to get there. Don’t let comparison hold you back from setting meaningful goals for yourself.

Following that, I’ll be hosting workshops on:

  • Personal Branding: Show the world who you really are and build a brand that reflects your unique strengths.
  • Interviewing Skills: Master the art of interviewing with confidence and ease.
  • CV Writing: Create a CV that truly highlights your skills and experience in a way that stands out.

And there’s much more coming! I’m offering these workshops to support you as you set your goals, overcome any roadblocks, and achieve the success you’re capable of.

Don’t wait for external validation. Focus on your own progress.

If you want to start 2025 with a clear vision, a focused mind, and a confident step forward, email me to reserve your spot for the Goal Setting & Clarity workshop on January 9th, 2025. Let’s leave comparison behind and make next year YOUR best year yet.

Remember, your journey is uniquely yours, and it's time to embrace it fully.

To support you on this journey, I invite you to take my Career Self-Assessment Review. This valuable tool will help you uncover your needs, goals, and areas for growth. It’s an essential first step in taking charge of your life and career.

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Each month, we offer this course to provide you with the tools to recognize your strengths and push past limiting beliefs in just two weeks.

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Ms Patisa Nombakuse: Founder of Ziveze Coaching Services
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