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“Can’t I Just Figure It Out Myself?” – The Honest Truth About Coaching

 

One of the most common questions I get from people is this:
“What’s the big deal with coaching? Isn’t it the same as reading a book or watching a good TED Talk?”
Or the classic:
“Why should I bother paying for coaching when I can just figure things out on my own?”

Honestly?
I get it.

We’ve all been raised to believe that the strongest people are the ones who do it all on their own. That if you just try hard enough, read the right books, or go to the right seminars, you’ll eventually figure things out.

And yes—you might.
But let’s be real for a moment…


Knowing ≠ Growing

Here’s something I’ve learned through years of coaching others and being coached myself:
Information doesn’t equal transformation.

You can know what to do, but still not do it.
You can read about confidence and still shrink back when it’s time to speak up.
You can listen to motivation every morning and still feel stuck at your core.

Why?
Because growth doesn’t happen through information. It happens through awareness, mindset shifts, accountability, and courageous action.

That’s where coaching comes in.


“But I Can Do It On My Own…”

Yes, you absolutely can go it alone.
But let’s ask the real question:
How’s that been working for you so far?

Most of the people I work with are smart, capable, high-achieving professionals.
They’ve read the books. They’ve attended the webinars. They’ve done the DIY self-help route.

But they still feel stuck.
Not because they’re not trying—but because they’ve hit a ceiling that hustle alone can’t break.

A coach doesn’t hand you answers.
A coach helps you unlock your own—by asking the questions you didn’t think to ask, challenging the beliefs that are holding you back, and guiding you toward clarity and action.


Coaching Is Not Therapy. Not Mentoring. Not Advice.

Let’s clear this up:

  • Therapy is about healing your past.

  • Mentoring is about learning from someone else’s experience.

  • Advice is someone telling you what to do.

Coaching?
Coaching is a conversation that empowers you to figure out what you truly want, what’s in the way, and what it will take to move forward.

It’s not about someone else’s success path—it’s about yours.


So Why Do People Hesitate?

Let’s play devil’s advocate:

  • “Coaching is expensive.”
    True—it’s an investment. But so is staying stuck for months (or years). So is burnout. So is being passed over for the promotion you never asked for. Coaching costs, but so does not growing.

  • “I should be able to do this on my own.”
    That sounds noble. But growth isn’t a solo sport. Even the best athletes have coaches. Because greatness isn't built in isolation.

  • “I’m not broken. I don’t need fixing.”
    Exactly! Coaching isn’t about fixing—it’s about unlocking. You’re already powerful. Coaching just helps you use that power on purpose.


So, Why Choose Coaching?

Because you’re done with the guessing.
Because you’re tired of the emotional tug-of-war.
Because you’ve got goals—but your confidence, fear, or self-doubt keeps getting in the way.
Because you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start living with intention.

You don’t need a coach.

But if you want clarity, momentum, transformation, and growth—you’ll want one.


Final Thoughts

If any part of you is saying:
“Maybe this is what I’ve been needing...”
...then I invite you to explore what’s possible through coaching.

No pressure. No perfect plan needed. Just a willingness to take the first step.

Because sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do for yourself...
is stop trying to do it all alone.

Book a free 20-minute clarity call with me and let’s talk about what’s possible for you. Book a free 30 min coaching chat using this link 


Best Regards 

Ms Patisa Nombakuse: Founder of Ziveze Coaching Services
MBA |NLP Mindset Coach|Specializes in Career Transition, Career Coaching & Small Business Coaching, Purpose Coach / 
We help you align with your purpose - Living an authentic life!! 

Cell: 0732197144 
Free ​30-min Discovery call contact us: Calendar
Centurion, Pretoria 

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